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Successful people are really good at making mistakes.

"Before we can truly understand another person, we must walk a mile in their moccasins. Before we can walk in their moccasins, we must take off our own."

~ American Indian Wisdom

The 8 Know-How Skills of Effective Leaders by Ram Charan

A Whole New Mind
by Daniel H. Pink

The Set-Up-To-Fail Syndrome by Jean-Francios Marzoni and Jean-Louis Bansoux

Coach your church using the BE-DO-HAVE Model

Your leadership team has determined the HAVE part of this equation: You want to have a 2nd worship service that is contemporary in style.

You also know the DO portion: Your To-Do list is already growing: recruit a worship leader. Identify musicians, singers and an AV team. Etc…

Now identify the BE portion: Who does your church need to be? Who do you need to become? Here are some examples:

• Open to change
• Relaxed about offering a choice
• Sold out on the REAL reason for offering a contemporary service
• Aware of and sensitive to the impact this will have on others
• And so on….

Once you get the BE in place, the HAVE and the DO usually come together much easier.

Pulling a Costanza

The topic during a recent coaching class I was leading was “How to coach someone who is stuck”? One of the strategies discussed was to request that the person explore other possibilities and consider alternative action. It’s not unusual to discover that part of the “Stuck-ness” is the result of doing the same things over and over again, while expecting different results.

One of the students said, “So Val, what you’re suggesting is that our clients PULL A COSTANZA?”

He was right! Do you remember the TV sitcom 'Seinfeld'. One of Jerry’s friends was George Costanza. George was one of those people who couldn't do anything right. In his thirties, he still lived at home, had no job, no relationship and was losing the rest of his hair. And he was often thought of as being unattractive.

And then George Costanza had a major A-Ha. George said something like this: “Jerry, it’s very clear to me that my life is the opposite of everything I want it to be. From now on I’m going to do the opposite.”

Do you remember what happened when George did the opposite? Things turned out very different.

So if you’re feeling “stuck” consider PULLING A COSTANZA.

• Look at things entirely differently.
• Be open to the opposite.
• Step out of your comfort zone.

It worked for George.